Finding the perfect au pair host family can be a challenge, but it’s definitely not impossible. It’s almost like searching for the perfect roommate to move in with. In order to find the perfect match, you need to ask questions, questions, and more questions. You put so much time and effort into the preparation of your stay abroad, so why not find a family that will make it as enjoyable as possible? Never be scared to ask too many questions, it shows the host family that you’re dedicated to finding the right match! Here are a list of questions to ask host families before you make the big decision!
Concerning The Family
- Are you a set schedule or “go with the flow” type of family?
- What do the parents do for a living?
- Where do you work?
- What are your work hours?
- What kinds of activities does your family do together?
- How do you spend your weekends or free time?
- Do you travel often?
- If so, would I be expected to join on family trips?
- What are your religious views, and how will they affect my everyday life?
Concerning The Children
- How many children do you have?
- How old are your children?
- How well do your children get along with each other?
- Do your children have extracurricular activities?
- Do your children have any special dietary needs?
- Do your children have chores?
- How should I behave in situations when your children will not listen?
- Are there any certain punishments I should know about?
- Do they have set rules for electronics (tv, ipads, etc.)?
- Will I need to drive them places?
Concerning The Home
- Where do you live?
- How would you describe the surrounding environment of your home?
- What is the weather like in your area?
- What are the most important rules I should know about?
- Are there any expectations for curfew?
- What are your expectations during meal times?
- Can I spend my free time alone?
- After we get to know each other, would I be permitted to invite friends and family to visit?
Practical Matters
- What will my daily life/routine be like?
- What are my hours?
- Will I need to work weekends?
- Which tasks do you expect of me (dishes, laundry, etc.)?
- Which tasks are most important?
- Do you expect me to buy things on a regular basis? If so, how will I pay?
- Will I have my own bedroom?
- Will I have my own bathroom?
- Will I have access to a car? If not, is there public transportation nearby?
- What do you generally offer for pocket money?
- How would my cell phone plan work? Is that something you offer or something I would have to pay for on my own?
- How long are you looking to host an au pair?
- Have you hosted an au pair before?
- Is it possible for me to get in contact with your previous au pair, or au pairs in the area?
- What is your favorite part about hosting an au pair?
Ask Yourself
- Do I like the parents and kids?
- Do they seem to like me?
- Do they show interest in me?
- Are they warm and friendly?
- Would I like to live with them?
- Would I get along with them?
- Do I trust them?
- Do they offer a fair deal?
It’s okay to tell a family that you don’t see yourself being their au pair, honesty really is the best policy. Be sure to make your expectations clear and don’t lose sight of what you really want!